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Lets first understand what goals mean…
Goals are long-term achievements. They’re usually future-focused and don’t include actual steps to accomplish the goal. For example, a company might say they have a goal “to be number one in customer satisfaction”. That’s the goal.
We have to change our perspective in seeing our challenges. Together, we can break down our attitude into two areas to fix: blaming outside circumstances, such as our busy work and lack of support from family, and believing that staying the same would somehow give different results.
The conclusion comes to this: To change the old pattern, you must change what you do. And, to change what you do, you must know what you want and set a goal based on it.
Having a goal can mean different things to different people. People who have a fuzzy idea of what they want can hardly have a clear goal. Some people have a pretty clear goal and know what they want, which is better. Others may even write their goals down and have a rough idea of how they will do it, for example, “I want to get fit, so I will go to the gym for 1 hour each day.”
But, is having a goal good enough?
In our experience, it’s very far from what you need.
A lot of people fall into the trap of not really understanding what they want in the first place. Most people make New Year’s resolutions for the sake of it, never understanding their intention and what they truly want.
Some people know what they want to change. For example, wanting to lose weight, or exercise once a day etc. but they don’t know why
Any type of change takes work and consistent action. For it to be sustainable, you need to know why: Why do you want to change this? For example, if you want to get fit… why? To be healthier? To feel more confident? To feel attractive?
A goal with no clear purpose is doomed to fail. Even if it’s accomplished, you can feel incomplete still. There is a 5 Why’s Framework — a way to dig down and really find out the fundamental intention. Sometimes it takes a few tries and asking the right questions.
Here’s how your flow may end with an “aha” moment:
Here, let’s take an example of Nidhi, she works with a very well known organisation. In the initial years she got many opportunities to grow but now her growth became stagnant, she was into marketing for several years now but wasn’t able to see what lies ahead. She thought of taking up an add on course to sharpen her skills at marketing. But before that, we told her to use the 5 whys framework and let’s see what answer she got!
- Why do I want to take the course?
Ans. So that I can improve my qualifications at marketing.
- Why improve qualifications?
Ans. Because I want to take my career further and take on more leadership roles.
- Why do I want a leadership role?
Ans. Because I want to take charge of a campaign from beginning to end.
- Why can’t I do that now?
Ans. Because I’m not proactive enough in being the point person that others follow.
- Why is that?
Ans. Because I’m afraid of public speaking situations and presenting my ideas to a live audience.
The final answer set off a light bulb in her head. It turns out that Nidhi was actually already very experienced with marketing. She’d come up with many brilliant ideas and was involved in many successful past campaigns.
After doing the 5 Why’s, her weakest area was actually something completely different from the goal of a marketing course. In fact, she was secretly terrified of presenting in front of a lot of people. This the key factor really holding her back from taking a leadership role and advancing her career.
She didn’t need more marketing qualifications. Taking that marketing course was boring and tedious because it was for the wrong reasons — plus, she already knew the material!
Now she knew that her focus should instead be on how to overcome her fear in public speaking and improve her live presentation skills.
While it seems simple in hindsight, without taking a step back for serious reflection, it’s not something that everyone can see right away.
How about you? Do you understand the “why” behind your New Year’s resolution?
If you don’t even fully understand your New Year’s resolutions, then it’s an indication of something deeper — how about your other goals and decisions in general?
Understanding why you want to do something is a key part of Motivation — a Cornerstone Skill that forms the basis of life success and happiness. The simple 5 Why exercise was just one technique we pulled out to apply in a practical situation. There’s a lot more.
Want to know how you can find your cornerstone skill and become what you are destined to be? Get in touch with us.
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